I was surprised and delighted to read that many college girls are finally learning that they hold value, that their bodies aren’t little playthings for slobbering and sweaty young men, and that giving themselves over for one night stands comes with an emotional price that often lingers for a long time. It’s not been a popular message these days in high schools or college campuses, as more often than not, we’ve seen young people tossed candy-flavored condoms and sent off with a wink.
The songs, shows and movies our youth watch and listen to glorify sexual promiscuity without consequence. It starting at an incredibly young age now. Most parents these days are completely clueless and don’t take the time to sit down and watch the teeny-bopper shows that their pre-teens are watching which promotes serious relationships, often very physical, at young and inappropriate ages. Television shows and movies that are popular among my kid’s ages are often not allowed in my home because I know my son’s life-long moral values and convictions are already being formed and influenced, right now, by what he is exposed to. I’m not always the cool mom when it comes to popular teen and teeny-bopper culture and games because I know garbage that goes in, is garbage that eventually comes out.
I’m often shocked and amazed by the junk that parents feed the young minds of their children. Pour in bad gas to a high powered car engine and you are going to have a car that doesn’t run properly for very long. Eat a steady diet of hot dogs and donuts and you’ll have a body that will break down and not live to old age. Why don’t we consider the same thing for our children and youth’s minds? Remember, as a man THINKETH, so IS he.
Add to that the loose attitudes we have towards sex in this hyper-sexualized society, teaching our kids that if you are going to have sex, just wear a condom. We put emphasis on protecting their bodies but we are failing their spirits, their emotions and their hearts. And more than promoting “safe sex” most of these programs are just promoting “more sex.”
Those who preach AGAINST teaching abstinence might as well be handing their 17 year-old a 6 pack of beer while issuing them a warning to wear their seatbelt. We don’t tell our kids that they shouldn’t drink and drive but IF THEY DO, just be sure and wear a seatbelt. We FIRMLY preach DON’T DRINK and DRIVE! Period.
Pregnancies and abortions are only rising among our girls with one in every three babies being born out of wedlock and STD’s are rising to epic proportions with over 3 Million kids infected. With only a quarter of federal funding going towards abstinence funding, I think it’s a safe assumption that only preaching “Safe Sex” isn’t working very well for our kids. Abstinence is the only way to insure no pregnancy, no abortions, no teenage mothers, no STD’s.
More than anything, this needs to be taught in the home. Kids who have a firm grounding in moral values at home can combat and aren’t as easily influenced by what they are told out of the home that just isn’t right.
Dads need an awakening in this country towards their daughters. You are the most important man in your daughter’s life. Girls need their dad’s attention, love and affection so that they don’t go searching for it from some hormone-crazed boy. They need to be loved on and told by their dads that they are priceless, that their bodies are precious, and that their virginity is something that can only be given once. They need to understand that there are consequences to treating themselves without respect, that handing themselves off from boy to boy can create lasting emotional damage that can take years to heal.
Moms need to pay more attention. We are usually home the most, we have instincts about what is going on in our kid’s lives that we need to use more and act on when we see something isn’t right. Don’t be afraid to make an unpopular choice with your kids and your teenagers and turn the shows and movies off that promote behavior you wouldn’t want to see your own kids engaged in. Help them choose their friends wisely. Teach them to think critically, to question authority in a right way. They will thank you for it later. I know I did. I can clearly remember the battles I fought with my parents but they engaged in a fight that they knew was worth fighting and how I appreciate it today.
These college girls, referred to in the above article, hold some of the emotional scars I’ve referred to. They bought into the storyline that you can give yourself away over and over, without consequence, and they found it to be a lie. Many on college campuses across the country are making choices, taking stands and reclaiming their bodies and self-respect. I can admire these young women and hope that their voices and actions reach out to their peers and make a difference in this world.