If it feels good- just do it… Want it now? What’s the sense in delayed gratification? Our teens are constantly being bombarded with a message from our decaying culture that if they aren’t walking around with a Juicy stamp squarely across their little bottoms or a little bit of “hiney” cleavage showing around the bottom of their shorts than they aren’t cool. Little girls aren’t being taught that their bodies are precious, made with and for a purpose, and it isn’t to be a plaything for the pimply hormonal boy in their Social Studies class. Parents are not being parents anymore and teaching a message not only to their girls that their “goods” aren’t for sale to the highest bidder but also to their boys on how to respect a girl.
Abstinence is a word that is sneered at and is often followed by an eyeroll– not just from the children and teens but also from some scared, and in many cases, lazy and MIA parents. Because, as we know, the war that is being waged outside of our walls through every bit of this degenerate culture, is also being allowed in our homes through primetime shows, teeny bopper bits even on Nickelodeon, and through many mainstream songs. Trust me, as a parent who enjoys the latest music- I’m having to switch the channel in the car more often than not. Your child is not in their best interest. Their bottom line is their best and only interest and they know that sex sells.
So instead of vigilant parents on constant guard of their children’s hearts and bodies, we are seeing instead a toss of a candy-flavored condom and a wink. We are sending our ill-equipped kids out with a message that safe sex is sex without consequence.
That being said pregnancies and abortions are only rising among our girls with one in every three babies being born out of wedlock and STD’s are rising to epic proportions with over 3 Million kids infected. With only a quarter of federal funding going towards abstinence funding, I think it’s a safe assumption that only preaching “Safe Sex” isn’t working very well for our kids. Abstinence is the only way to insure no pregnancy, no abortions, no teenage mothers, no STD’s.
In fact, new numbers were released this week by the CDC stating that there are now 110,197,000 venereal infections in the United States:
The STI study referenced by the CDC estimated that 50 percent of the new infections in 2008 occurred among people in the 15-to-24 age bracket. In fact, of the 19,738,800 total new STIs in the United States in 2008, 9,782,650 were among Americans in the 15-to-24 age bracket.
It’s enough to make you want to lock your kids in a safe room and throw away the key. But, since that can’t happen vigilance IS the key. I wrote an article awhile back about many college girls who are finally waking up and realizing that they bought into the storyline that you can give yourself away over and over, without consequence, and they found it to be a lie.
We have loose attitudes we have towards sex in this hyper-sexualized society, teaching our kids that if you are going to have sex, just wear a condom. We put emphasis on protecting their bodies but we are failing their spirits, their emotions and their hearts. And more than promoting “safe sex” most of these programs are just promoting “more sex.”
Those who preach AGAINST teaching abstinence might as well be handing their 17 year-old a 6 pack of beer while issuing them a warning to wear their seatbelt. We don’t tell our kids that they shouldn’t drink and drive but IF THEY DO, just be sure and wear a seatbelt. We FIRMLY preach DON’T DRINK and DRIVE! Period.
In closing, I say this to those who want to continue down the same path we’ve been traveling with our young people- to detrimental results. Teenagers have every capability of saying no. We teach them say no to drugs. We teach them from a young age not to talk to strangers. We teach them not to drink and drive. The list on what we firmly teach our children in and out of the school system is endless. So, why do we continue to feel as if this is an issue that we can’t teach them to abstain from like all of the rest?
Will kids continue to mess up and make mistakes if we preach abstinence? Of course, they will. History shows us that there has always been out of wedlock and teen pregnancy. But, clearly, the numbers that we are dealing with in modern day are astronomical and nothing like we’ve dealt with historically. That being said, let’s all remind ourselves of the definition of insanity….