I ended the day yesterday just throwing my hands in the air and wondering if there will be anything left worth salvaging from this party’s platform once Donald Trump gets done using it as his personal experiment. I’ve vacillated between anger and frustration this season and walked away last night with a broken heart at the depths of collateral damage being done at the hands of this man and those who have abandoned their principles to follow him.
In one fell swoop, a man who has given less than 3 seconds of thought to crucial planks on the conservative platform, Trump managed to set back the pro-life movement by leap years. I know many of you who have carried the mantle for life as carefully as I have were howling in frustration and deep rooted angst at the careless and thoughtless approach that Trump took to a fragile and complicated issue such as post abortion women.
The calloused off-hand remark he gave as an answer to Chris Matthews in a Townhall last night left many of us stunned. Sure, since then he has walked it back as is typical Trump. There hasn’t been one issue that he hasn’t landed on all sides on since this election season started. He throws it up on the wall- sees what kind of reaction he gets and then proceeds with the populist version.
And this was no different. But, this one will leave more than a throbbing bruise–it very well may have left irreparable damage that will lead to a loss of ground that will result in more damaged women and babies lost.
I want to be the first to say, as an incredibly strong proponent and protector of life, that I find Trump’s remarks reprehensible and unrepresentative of me and the conservative movement as I’ve always known it.
I’m not pro-life just because I care about an unborn baby. I’m also pro-life because I’ve talked to too many women who have experienced the pain and anguish of abortion not to have an understanding that an enormous percentage of post abortive women are left suffering and wounded by their decision. In fact, suicide rates among post abortion women are three to six times higher than the average person. I wrote on this very topic not long ago:
Many people who suffer from a loss are able to openly discuss the hurt and grief and receive comfort among their friends and family, but an abortion sufferer is different. The loss is associated with a shame that is too deep to announce as a status on Facebook. They silently grieve and writhe in emotional pain, often tucked away for no one to ever see.
So we have to ask ourselves how are we responding to women who are hurting from the result of an act that many of us so vociferously and passionately oppose? The answer is simple. They must not feel further condemnation or shame. Many of you reading this profess to be Christians, as do I. If you are, you are the hands, the feet, the mouths of the Savior that you profess to serve and you must respond as He would. Believe me, there is nothing you can say to these women to make them feel lower about their decision than where they already are emotionally. They have to live with this decision every day and I can assure you that if many of them had the opportunity for a redo that they would grasp it with both hands.
Compassion. Love. Acceptance. Forgiveness. Mercy. Grace. These are the attributes we must embody when we encounter a woman hurting from the guilt and remorse of an abortion.
Are there people who should be punished for breaking a law? Yes. They are the profiteers in this industry who prey on women. They peddle lies of free and inconsequential love and climb the ladders of wealth and success on the backs of wounded women and jars of fetuses.
To outsiders looking in, know this. Trump is wrong. This is not who we are as conservatives, this is not who we are as a party. These comments are from a thoughtless, small thinker with an excruciatingly painful incomprehension of our values.
Meanwhile, the Democrat’s files grow larger and heavier with ammo to use against us for years to come. Trump is a cannon wound to our party that I fear we will never recover. If one was thoughtful, they may think it could only be purposeful. This is yet another reason I will #NeverTrump. Let the damage be done under another party, another banner. Not ours.